Marriage in Islam

موضوع: Marriage in Islam الإثنين مارس 28, 2011 8:46 pm

]Marriage plays an important roll in human life. As we all know it is a turning point of our life. Most of the creatures have been created in couples even an atom. Naturally another generation will be generated with the integration of these couples.
This natural phenomenon is the reason for the existence of the generations. Well, by shortening the preface, let me to indicate some immoral systems behind marriage.
Most of the marriages are arranged in the South Asian countries like India and Pakistan. Right, irrespective to Pakistan,
I would like to drag your attention to my small state “Kerala” in India. There are lotsa rules and regulations before and after marriages, especially in Malabar area. As for the arranged marriages, the initial step is arranging a broker to find out appropriate bride or groom. After the completion of this procedure the broker would play as an intermediary between the two parties. Next step is prenuptial investigation. Both parties would investigate each other (via relatives or neighbors) about the family back ground, lineage and financial status. If both parties are satisfied with the investigation, the next step would take place. The traditional meeting of the prospective bride and bridegroom what we call “Pennu kanal” in Malayalam. It’s meant “see the girl”. Mostly pennu kanal is conducted at girl’s residence. As for arranged marriages, it is the first time the prospective bride and groom meet each other. If the boy and girl liked each other, the final step prior to the confirmation would take place. “Dowry”…Eh..that’s it..”Dowry”. It can be construed as the price of groom (in India). As the qualification of Groom increases, the rate of dowry also increases accordingly. For instance, if the groom is under graduated, the rate would be 1 or 2 lakhs. If he is graduated, the rate would be 3-5 lakhs. In the case of professionally qualified bridegrooms, the rate raises around 10-15 lakhs (or more according to the financial status). Eventually the girl’s family would be forced to give the bundle. This system probably quite curious to foreigners. But unfortunately it’s part of our culture that inherited from our ancient generations. This black money definitely would affect the calculation of the Gross Domestic Product of the country.
Let’s take a look upon the common people. How they manage to make a large amount (as for them) for dowry? They take severe struggles to give their daughters to appropriate grooms. Many poor families even tend to suicide due to this compulsory system if they have more than one girls to be married. Most of the divorces in India take place on account of dowry. After marriage some sisters would encounter severe harassments from husband or his family in terms of dowry. In this case, the wife can complaint against everyone whoever participated in this torture. As per the Indian Penal Code 498 A, the accused would be prosecuted with fine. Every participants on this harassment would be subjected to the law. Although the dowry makes many problems, the political parties and feminist organizations are keeping silence. Actually they don’t raise their voice sincerely against the dowry system. They would only try to solve the individual problems. Plenty of dowry based marriages are going on with Malabar Muslims. Actually I don’t know in which era this system crept into Indian Muslims. One who knows Islam and Quran will never support this kind of system which is contrary to Islamic law and culture. “Allah” apparently explained about dowry via “Quran”. Dowry is privilege of women (not men). She deserves it out of her husband on marriage. Yes, I must indicate some verses of Quran as a reference to this blog,
“And give to the women (whom you marry) their “Mahr” (Obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart”
“But if you replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount) as “Mahr”, take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrong fully without a right and (with) a manifest sin? And how could you take it (back) when you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?”
Explanation: If any one of you wants to divorce his wife and replace her with another, you should not take anything from what you have already given the first wife, even it was a huge amount of wealth. The “Mahr” is given in exchange for the right to enjoy marital relations (Explained by Ibn Katheer).
It’s obvious out of the above verses that women hold a prominent status in Islam. Dowry should be given to her on marriage. It’s her right. But people follow just opposite irrespective to these verses. Islam lets men to accept any gifts from bride or her family. But this gift should not be dowry or upon any persuasions. He can only accept this gift if they are providing it based on their own will. But people misinterpret it (deliberately) and consider it as a compulsory dowry system. In fact men underestimate the right of women. After receiving a huge amount as dowry from girl’s family, he gives a bit from it to her as “Mahr”. Yes, an instance of men’s sovereignty over women.
My dear countrymen and friends! It’s time to open our eyes. We shouldn’t let this vampiric system to grow anymore in our country. We youngsters should come front to raise slogan against dowry. Make awareness in your parents about the consequences of dowry. By standing shoulder to shoulder, we should eradicate this “Haram” from this world. Eh, for the sake of our sisters. To avoid increasing suicides, and other tortures against women in terms of dowry. Women are not slaves to be tortured. Indeed they are to be protected by us.
“Pitha Rakshathi Koumare
Bhartha Rakshathi youvane
Puthra Rakshathi vardhakye
Na sthree swathanthramarhathi.....”
To be protected by father in her teenage,
To be protected by husband in her youth,
To be protected by son in her old age……..

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موضوع: رد: Marriage in Islam السبت أبريل 02, 2011 8:22 pm

thanks alot for the nice topic
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موضوع: رد: Marriage in Islam الأحد أبريل 03, 2011 2:58 am

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lady your reading gave me confidence
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موضوع: رد: Marriage in Islam الخميس أبريل 07, 2011 3:57 am

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موضوع: رد: Marriage in Islam الجمعة أبريل 08, 2011 2:51 am

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